Get Back Your Ex-Girlfriend Just By Becoming Less Reachable And Even More Of A Challenge
You used to be a challenge for her. You had a superior significance and she was irresistibly fascinated by you. Now she's gone and you are saying: "I want my ex back!"
I'm going to make a wild guess here, and yet can it be that as time went on, you started to be less and less of a challenge for her? And can it be that now, you're absolutely no challenge for her? And that she realizes if she wanted to, at any time she could easily get you back again and wrapped around her finger simply by saying the word?
Now I'm going to be crude here, however as you know, to develop into a challenge again you have to prove to your ex lover that her sexuality does not have any control over you any longer. Take into account what it's like when you are stalking her with not returned phone calls, voice mails, text messages, and emails. After which consider just what it's like when you keep on doing it (as quite a few guys do) even after she's told you to stop. You will be suggesting to the woman that you are a low-value guy without any other dating options.
Your lady won't respect you again until you reject her influence over you. Fortunately you're doing that now by not directly interacting with her. The last thing she needs to hear from you now is how much "I want my ex back", so stay away from her.
Be sure you stay 100% strict with your communication cut-off. You should not be "buddies" with her, as that rewards her with the ongoing validation of power over you while supplying her a convenient reason to stay separated. (Your ex justifies that she is letting you down easy that way, assuaging virtually any guilt she may feel.)
However, make sure to keep her locked in with the help of your stuff. More than likely quite a few your belongings are at her residence, and vice versa. She may also owe you money as well. She could request a mutual friend of yours to ask you if you'd like all of it back.
The best answer to this is simply "No, not yet. The rationale is because her possessing your stuff (and you holding onto hers) is still locking you two in and guaranteeing future communication. You do NOT want to give her the psychological closure that would result from settling your accounts.
For the next three weeks, you have to totally accept -- and embrace -- the idea that you're an independent man now. Take what occurred with your ex-lover and learn from it. You've got a fantastic chance to transform your life which will eventually allow you to get your exgirlfriend back.